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30 DAYS OF BALANCED LIVING: Day 22 – Answering Your Questions about How to Heal and Become Balanced

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One of the readers posted on Facebook a very interesting question that I had already planned to answer for this series. Here’s what she had to say.

Q: Great series, great topic! I have been expressing this very question, what happens after the reveal and now the healing process begins and you return to the same environment (church, friends, family) from whence you came prior to the reveal? What type of support system do you turn to post-reveal? 

A: What is the key to a successful healing process? The key to a successful healing process is recognizing when you need to part ways with familiar people, places, and things. It is not healthy to remain in an environment that causes triggers in your life. Although, if family is involved, you can distance yourself until you are able to emerge ready to engage with them again. You see part of the self-examination process is to ask yourself several key questions after the reveal.

1. Is my time in this environment over?

2. Is my season coming to an end?

3. Have I already stayed here too long?

4. What good will come from the staying? Leaving?

When you are able to honestly answer these questions, put a strategy in place to move to your next stage or season in life. When you are sure that God has made you as uncomfortable as possible, because if He hadn’t you would not even be considering a change in your life, then and only then are you truly ready for a reveal. You have to be honest enough with yourself to ask the tough questions, think through how your life will change, and be mature enough to re-invent yourself and start fresh. And, if you are reading this and saying to yourself, “Why do I need to be the one to make the change, make the move, be the bigger person?” Then you are not ready for a reveal. A ready person knows that you do what is needed to be first, obedient to God, secondly, true to yourself, and third, have just the right amount of faith to walk in faith to pull it off!